Depending on who you ask, squirting can be super-hot (often males) or embarrassing (often females). It’s one of those things you can’t unlearn or choose when it happens once you’re wired up to do it – trust me, I know!
There are certain activities which increases or decreases the chance/risk (depending how you see it) of it happening, but that’s about it. Dehydration, position, exhaustion, level of arousal, previous orgasms – whether it happens and to what extent depends on so many factors.
I’m getting better with my level of embarrassment, but I’m still shy about it. I can probably never quite “get” why it’s such a big deal for some men. It’s not necessarily a receipt for a job well done: There are marvellous climaxes with exploding stars and galaxies in flames which never lead to involuntary showers.
It shouldn’t be such a big deal, neither for men nor women. The big deal is if you’re having a good time, both of you (or however many you are).
If you’re interested in my experiences with squirting, please leave a comment or send a message.