Unsung heroes pt 3: Carsie Blanton – my Casual Love heroine
Carsie is a sex-positive blogger, witty singer-songwriter, talented performer and one of my gurus. You see, if your gurus are all old men with white beards, you’ve missed something. I love having a young, blunt, unconventional woman as a guru, who can teach me about life, love and music.
I love her music – like Backbone, about wanting someone who’s got integrity and self-awareness, not just swagger and a hot bod (although that’s always nice…)
or this one: Smoke Alarm about not giving a fuck about what others say most of the time (including not thinking too hard before spending a night with someone we fancy)
But for me, what has made a big difference is her blog on Casual Love; that we should allow ourselves to love and be loved a little more generously than most of us do today. It’s made an enormous difference to how I view love, sex and relationships. Read it here, it may just make your world that tiny bit brighter and lovelier. I have been known to say “I love you in a Carsie Blanton way”, meaning happily, without expectations or any trajectory. Just appreciating the moment we have together, nothing more, nothing less.
I love you in a Carsie Blanton way.